Designer Diary: 365 Days of Marrriage
When we were deciding on a wedding venue in 2012, the company that runs and operates the Knoxville Sunsphere warned us of the limited space we would have to work with when it came to carefully selecting a guest list and planning out the big day. “Not a problem,” I thought, “my guest list is right at 100 people anyway.”
We booked the venue, picked out the (cup)cake(s), tried on some dresses (OK – it was just me on that last one) and were amazed at just how quickly September 14, 2013 seemed to be creeping up on us.
The big day came and went – and I’ll get to more on that in a minute – but I wanted to take a moment and fast forward one whole year to today, as we celebrate our 1st Anniversary.
Despite knowing one another – and off and on dating – for nearly 8 years, each year has brought new adventure and growth in our relationship and our first year of marriage was no different.
We’ve learned a lot about each other during this first year of marriage. Here’s a list of the top 10:
1) James has learned that you can’t trust a dishwasher to clean your dishes, unless they are properly pre-washed first.
2) James learned to accept that I am and will always be navigationally challenged.
3) James has learned the difference between “I’m craving chocolate” and “I NEED CHOCOLATE RIGHT NOW WHY DOES EVERYBODY HATE ME?”
4) James has also learned the value of nodding his head and listening when I feel the need to vent about my daily petty dramas.
5) I have learned that having at least 4 computers, 5 large monitors and 2 wide-screen televisions is the only way to maintain a proper habitat for happy Jameses.
6) I’ve learned that James finds the tastiest food to be the food that I buy for myself.
7) I’ve discovered that James literally laughs out loud when composing Facebook status updates.
8) I now admit that his taste in television shows isn’t ALL bad.
9) James will always open the doors and windows in the apartment while I am in the shower so I must make sure a towel is handy at all times.
10) Last but not least – despite James’s hatred of anything that doesn’t involve guns, explosions and manly things – when he slips and let’s his man feelings show, he’s actually one of the kindest and most sincere men I have ever known.
He takes out the trash, I do the dishes, he maintains our Roomba and the cars, I brew him fresh iced tea and am the designated Comcast customer service caller (I deserve a trophy for that last one). We argue when we are sick, sometimes we go to the movies by ourselves because the other person is too busy, sometimes I eat too much cake and get a stomach ache during romantic dinners (like last night). We have lived in the small towns, big towns, cheap condos and the nicest hi-rise in downtown Nashville.
One year ago today I donned on a very expensive dress and James put on an uncomfortable suit and we stood on the 6th floor of the Sunsphere with just under 100 of our closest friends and family watching the sun set over the Knoxville skyline with more love than I knew that small but beautiful room could hold. We held hands and vowed that no matter what happened we’d take on each one life’s adventures – whether they be exciting or monotonous – together.
The wedding isn’t the finish line, it’s the starting point. On our wedding day it was almost like someone waived a checkered flag into the air and said “Ready, Set, Go” with our family and friends cheering us on and giving their full support. Keeping with that analogy, today we celebrate completing our first lap. We’ve only just now found a good pace.
So here’s to the rest of the journey – to the marathon that we have embarked on – vowing to finish side by side – and to my partner in crime – may the adventure continue.